“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” - Peace Pilgrim.
Never have truer words been spoken. If you wish to be happy and successful then it is vital that you develop a positive attitude as negativity breeds self-defeatist behaviour and drains any magnetism you may otherwise possess. That is why I have come up with these top tips which will help you quell negative thoughts and garner a more positive attitude to life.
Release Your Tension
Negativity causes tension and tension causes negativity, to break this circle you need to find a way to effectively work out the tension you hold. Nothing releases tension better than physical activity so try to find a form of exercise which you enjoy partaking in and do it daily. This could be joining a local sports team, going jogging or taking your dog for a brisk walk.
Another great way of releasing tension is to achieve something. Try cleaning out a room, tightening that leaking tap or re-potting a house plant. It doesn’t matter how big or small the achievement is, the feeling of accomplishment makes you feel like a winner.
Accept What You Can’t Change
We tend to dwell more on the negative past events in our lives rather than the positive ones. However no matter how much time and thought you put into it, there’s nothing you can do to change the past. All you can do is learn from any mistakes you’ve made and make use of that lesson in the future.
Similarly there are some things in the present that you cannot change. When this is true you should try to move away from the source of negativity as best you can.
Avoid Critical Thinking
You’re not perfect, I’m not perfect, and honestly we never will be because nobody is ever perfect. Critical thinking only develops a negative attitude towards yourself and others. The time you spend thinking poorly of yourself or others would be much better served coming up with ideas and solutions to aid development.
Avoid Pointless Competition
Sometimes competition can be a big driving force behind success, however rarely does competition result in a positive outlook. Instead it develops jealousy, bitterness and resentment. That is why you need to avoid pointless competition. You will find that you can actually get a lot more done, and therefore achieve more, when you co-operate with others rather than working against them.
Prepare Properly
Whenever you are properly prepared for a situation or event then it becomes a lot easier to deal with it in a positive manner. For example I run a number of websites and unfortunately there are a few rotten apples who take amusement in hacking other people’s website. If I wasn’t prepared for this and it were to happen then I would lose hundreds of hours of work and a significant revenue source, and it’d generate a lot of negativity from me. That is why I always make sure my sites are backed up in several formats, so if one of my website’s got hacked I would be easily able to undo the damage. No fuss, no muss.
Help Others
When you regularly make the effort to help others you are seen in a much more positive light by those you have helped. In turn, this means that should you find yourself in need of help there are more people who are likely to want to offer you assistance. This provides a comfort level that will allow you to be more positive as even through a period of bad luck you will have friends to fall back on.
There you have it. Six areas that you can work on to become a more positive person. It might not happen overnight but with some hard work and persistence you can become that dynamic, positive individual you always wanted to be.