Well, it has finally gotten the better of you and now you have landed yourself in a predicament. You had a case of road rage, spousal rage or simply blew a proverbial gasket and went off on a tirade against other people.
The cops were called and now you find that managing anger on your own is not an option. You were handcuffed, a ticket was written and now you have to make an appearance in court and a judge will likely order you to take an anger management program. Congratulations for losing your cool and providing a great example for others.
Hopefully, you have not let your anger go too far. You really may want to think about how seriously the law takes anger aggression. Murders have been committed over less than an improper lane change. Anger management courses are filled with people who did not think they had a problem.
Most anger "addicts" believe that they are in the right. This usually is a very, very misaligned perception. But you can manage anger by attending a course about anger management. You will be surprised to learn what your triggers are, how to resolve conflicts peacefully and how to be more assertive.
Aggressive people cannot be doormats for other's but may only be able to assert themselves through anger and aggression. It may seem a bit silly to think of an aggressive person as being dominant but it may not be the case and they can still find themselves trying to manage anger in their lives. Just remember: there are times to be assertive and times to be aggressive. You must know the differences between the two.
There are certain triggers that seem to set some people off. It may be the morning commute with all of the traffic jams and other bad drivers that is setting you off. You become irritated on the drive and by the time you get to work you are in a foul mood.
An anger management program can help you deal with managing anger and the triggers that can cause you to go into a rage. Sometimes you have to just let the situation go since you cannot control the actions of others. Just tell yourself, "It could be worse. Maybe I'll find a different, less congested route."
It may feel like you are making a mistake and you feel that you do not have a problem if you are forced to enter an anger management program. Take the time to listen what the therapists and counselors are saying. Talk to others that have gone through the program. Being involved with the anger management group is the first step to healing your body and your mind.
